Survey: Dating at Work—How Young Americans Really Feel
For many young daters, meeting someone “organically” doesn’t happen at bars or parties anymore; it happens at work. Whether it’s in the office, over Slack or during back-to-back meetings, the workplace has quietly become one of the last spaces where connections can form naturally.
To understand how modern daters feel about mixing work and romance, Hily surveyed 2,000 Gen Z and Millennial Americans. From workplace crushes to dating app run-ins and evolving boundaries, the results reveal how attitudes toward office relationships are shifting.
First, some key findings from our survey:
- 72% of Gen Z and 85% of Millennial daters have had a work crush
- 44% of Gen Z and 36% of Millennials feel like there’s a double standard: men aren’t judged for dating at work, and women are
- 1 in 3 Gen Z and Millennial American daters would quit their job to be with someone they fell for at work
From Co-workers to Connections
Around half of Gen Z (53%) and Millennials (52%) say dating someone from work should be normalized. Yes, it can get messy, but it’s one of the few places where meeting organically still happens. As social circles shrink and dating apps dominate, work offers something different: built-in familiarity. It’s not just proximity: it’s a connection that develops naturally over time.
Sometimes the setting matters more than the connection itself. More Gen Z and Millennial daters say they would be open to dating a co-worker if they worked remotely rather than in person. Remote work seems to create a sense of separation, making the idea of dating a colleague feel less risky and more manageable.
It’s not in the job description—but it happens. In fact, it happens a lot: 72% of Gen Z and 85% of Millennials say they’ve had a work crush (with one in three admitting it was a teammate). Spending long hours together, collaborating and sending Slack messages can lead to connection. Maybe the strongest connections come from shared calendars and deadlines.
Boundaries, Risks and Double Standards
The top reasons daters avoid workplace relationships include wanting to keep their personal and professional lives separate, concerns about post-breakup awkwardness and potential reputational risks. That risk isn’t meeting someone—it’s what happens if things don’t work out, and you still need to come to work the next day.
Gender inequality goes beyond salaries: 44% of Gen Z and 36% of Millennials say there’s a noticeable double standard when it comes to workplace dating, where men face fewer consequences for dating at work than women. Perception and reputation still play a big role in how these relationships are viewed. Even as norms shift, some expectations haven’t caught up.
Perhaps unsurprisingly, at the same time, many daters are pushing back on strict rules. Almost half of Gen Z daters (44%) say workplace dating bans shouldn’t exist at all. As work becomes more flexible and less traditional, expectations around relationships are shifting too. For some, outright bans feel outdated in a world where work and life are already closely connected.
From the Office to the Apps
Work and dating apps are no longer separate worlds. Roughly a third of Gen Z and half of Millennials say they’ve come across someone from their workplace (past or present) on a dating app. From after-hours work emails to swiping on a colleague, the overlap between professional and personal spaces is becoming harder to avoid. In many cases, the line between “co-worker” and “potential match” is blurrier than expected.
For some, connection outweighs the risk. Nearly 1 in 3 daters say they’d consider quitting their job if they fell in love with someone at work. That level of commitment highlights just how real these relationships can become. When feelings are strong enough, plans and priorities can shift quickly.
Where Work Ends, and Dating Begins
Hily’s survey shows that workplace romance isn’t disappearing; it’s just evolving. As traditional ways of meeting people change, work remains one of the few spaces where organic connections still happen.
The result is a more nuanced approach: open, but cautious. Many are willing to explore workplace connections, but on their own terms—weighing convenience against consequences.
Clock in, catch feelings, log out. Because while work might be where connections start, what happens next is a balance between opportunity, timing and knowing when it’s worth the risk.