Aug 19, 2021
Common Abbreviations on Dating Apps


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Online dating is incredibly popular these days. Some of the leading platforms in the industry have revolutionized the concept of dating in a matter of years. One thing everyone needs to get into the magic world of online dating is the right vocabulary. 

Words and phrases we use have always been important in dating. The special ‘dating code’ used to have quite strict boundaries. With time, the strict etiquette eased and adapted to our current lifestyles. In the era of 9-to-5 office jobs and busy commutes, acronyms are very popular. 

These abbreviations and acronyms really transformed the way we talk with people online. Continue reading and explore some of the most common acronyms you will find on dating apps. 

DTR - Define The Relationship

Every relationship, whether it started online or offline, goes through a very important phase. During this period, the couple defines the future of the relationship by having an honest and profound discussion. This conversation is often referred to as DTR, or simply “Define The Relationship”. 

This acronym is used surprisingly widely all around the world, which only proves the importance of a DTR. Even if you are talking with a person you met a few days ago online, you might still need to have a DTR. It will help you decide how to move forward and what to expect in the future. 

Timing your DTRs is also quite important. Having one  at an early stage could easily scare your partner away. Many people are afraid of talking about commitment, which is why DTRs happen to be such a sensitive topic. But if you do it too late, you might end up missing some important details and ruining your relationship. So, all in all, DTRs have proven to be important enough to deserve their own acronym, as well as a spot in the acronyms’ hall of fame. 

IRL -  In Real Life

This acronym is used everywhere and is not exclusive to dating. However, IRL has gained a particularly important role in the online dating scene. Meeting someone online implies a lack of physical contact, at least at first. When it’s time to meet each other in the real world, IRL is the term people normally use. If you’ve been on online dating platforms, then you have probably gotten messages  such as: “Hey, do you want to meet IRL sometime soon?” or “I would love to see you IRL, cutie!”

CPL - Couple

Bringing in some extra drive into a couple’s sex life can be amazing. Dating apps made finding hook-ups quite easy, so couples are onto it! 

The online dating scene is now full of couples looking for threesomes, other couples, and all kinds of things. They usually explain their needs in more detail, but the abbreviation can often be the first indication of a couple.  

WLTM - Would like to meet

This acronym is extremely useful whenever you want to arrange a quick meet-up. Simply text “WLTM” to your match. This term is often used among couples, friends with benefits, or sex buddies. 

BiF / BiM - bi male/female

Looking for a bisexual partner? You can quickly identify them by the acronyms BiF and BiM. They respectively stand for bisexual male and bisexual female. These abbreviations can be quite useful if you are bisexual looking for other bi people, or simply want to remain open about your identity. 

DOM, SUB, D/S - Dominant, Domination/Submission

A lot more people are into D/S than one might think. It should not come as a surprise that these terms have emerged, becoming quite popular. Someone with DOM in their bio is most likely a dominant searching for a submissive partner. SUB, on the other hand, stands for submissive who's looking for a dominant. 

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