Locking lips in a kiss can be one of the first things you do when you have found a potential partner and relationship. But how to make out and make this experience unforgettable? You know it’s much more than that simple and quick peck that you may have planted gently on a forehead or a cheek in the beginning. You’re now ready for that kiss on the lips, and you probably have not thought a lot about it – you’re in the mood and you just do it.
But what have you done to prepare for this moment? Of course, it should be spontaneous, like a natural impulse at the moment. But are you the best kisser you can be or do you just think it’s aiming for your partner’s mouth and start kissing?
If all you want is kissing and more kissing, you are probably satisfied with your style. And that style may lead to sex eventually. But kissing should be foreplay to greater foreplay, and that foreplay is called making out.
If you really want great foreplay that involves kissing, then you need to learn how to make out and have an epic make-out session at that. Here is your guide.
Your basic steps should include proper preparation, setting the right environment and mood, building sexual tension, mastering the art of kissing, and passing the wealth around. Let’s take a closer look at each of these stages of mastering the make out art.
If you think that when you and your latest squeeze get together, there’s going to be lots of kissing (and more), then are certain things you need to do in preparation. Pay attention to these – they’re important. Star with your head, not your libido.
This should go without saying, but a reminder won’t hurt. You may be a great kisser, but if your breath is bad, it will be the biggest turnoff ever. Brush your teeth and use a mouthwash before you meet up. And, if you are going to be spending an entire evening out and about before that make-out session starts, better have a breath mint in your pocket or purse to keep that breath fresh. A clean and fresh mouth cannot be underestimated.
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Your and your partner’s body language is one thing. It sends all sorts of messages as you go through an evening that a make-out will be on the horizon at the end of the date. But there is another aspect of the impact of your body – hygiene. If you even suspect that a make out session might end your evening, then make sure you have showered, shaved, deodorized, and maybe some cologne? And it wouldn’t hurt to use some serious lotion on those hands. Making out will involve special touches on your partner’s body, not to mention that you may hold hands during the evening.
Dry and chapped lips are not fun and do not make for a great kiss. Lip balm of some sort is definitely called for – keep it with you so you can refresh. And don’t forget those fingernails -nothing would be worse than scratching your partner’s neck, face, or ear – how embarrassing.
While these may seem ridiculous to mention, it’s worth a reminder. You may not take this kind of detailed care if you are only on a first date and don’t anticipate making out. But you never know where things may lead, even on a first date. The best kisses can stimulate libidos and lead to much more, even on that first date.
You’re not in high school anymore. Back then, making out on the couch at your friend’s house or in the car was probably the type of environment you had. And your idea of making out was lots of kisses. with closed mouth and then some tongue action, and then groping around as you moved down your partner’s body and they moved down yours.
Now that you’re an adult, making out takes on a new meaning and a new style.
You need a completely private place. Fortunately, as an adult, at least one of you may have your own pad. And if you have a roommate, make sure they will be out or that at least your bedroom is private.
And please mute the phones. Your ex might be smashing you with calls or texts (or worse, your mom).
The right environment will really help set the mood. If your make-out partner comes to your place, for example, make sure it’s clean and inviting. Clothes on the floor, last night’s beer bottles still on the tables, and a messy bathroom set a totally different mood, and it’s not a good one. for kissing or anything else. Women especially appreciate a clean place.
The other part of setting the mood is psychological. Dim the lights, maybe light some scented candles, and begin some low-key quiet conversation. Establish eye contact while you are gently touching their arm or shoulder. If you are sitting, make sure your bodies are touching. This kind of body language lets your partner know you are ready, and, if they are too, they will welcome those moves. If they’re not, they will put some distance between the two of you and change the conversation to something light or funny. This is not the time to make your moves.
Once you know how to make out right, you’ll understand that it cannot be rushed. More on that later. But for now, just understand that going slowly will gradually increase the passion you both feel and make the whole session much more satisfying (not to mention it might lead to a homerun).
Building sexual tension should happen even before that first kiss. And that tension can build through both words and physical moves. Some of this was mentioned above, but here are some moves you can make.
“It’s a dance…start slow and tune into the pace of your partner…be playful, sensual, and romantic…Is the first kiss really that important? You bet your regal lips it is!”
Karen Lee Poter, dating coach
First of all, a perfect kiss takes practice. And every partner will be different. So what may be a good kiss to one may not be to another. But if you have all of the techniques mastered, you can then modify as you go, based upon your partner’s responses. As you modify your techniques, you’ll hit upon a natural rhythm that works for both of you.
There are many ways to kiss. Here are a few techniques for a kiss that will make you far more artful and probably get you the response you want:
Once you have been locking lips for a while and things are going well, it’s time to be a good kisser elsewhere.
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OK. Take a deep breath and maybe a hot breath. It’s time to move to other erogenous zones besides the lips. Want some advice? You don’t need a dating coach for this. Use your own sense of how things are going and begin with the closest and easiest spots first.
Individuals differ about what parts of their bodies are actually erogenous. If you are comfortable with doing it, you might ask.
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If you follow the steps above, you’ll be a better kisser than the majority of your peers. And remember, all of this takes practice – you’ll not be a master and feel comfortable with every move on your first-time partner’s lips or any part of their whole body this first time out. And using that tongue masterfully will take some practice too.
Now, here are a few more tips to refine your techniques even more:
Probably not. But if you take these steps and strategies to heart, you are well on your way to learning how to make out. And remember these key takeaways:
And the most important thing? Realize there is no perfect way to start making out or to end a session. Respect each other’s boundaries, focus on having a good time, and let that partner know you are interested in future sessions as the relationship moves forward.